Tuesday, June 12, 2007

We Now Take a Commercial Break...

For some much needed positive news!

My sister had her baby last Wednesday, almost exactly one month after the boys were born, and she is beautiful!!!! Everything went well and my sister is doing fine. I was well enough to visit her and the baby in the hospital last week, and last night she brought the baby to my parent's house so all three babies were together. What a zoo! We got some fun pictures and enjoyed the symphony of baby cries (for the most part :)

While I'm on positive thoughts, I want to note some of the wonderful things that have come out of my almost dying. (Yesterday I had 3 separate doctors tell me how they can't believe I survived, so it's kinda funny that I can now say I almost died and know that I'm not just being my usual melodramatic self.)

1. A big source of pain in my life is that I've never heard my mom tell me that she loves me. She had never said the words to me. I've always felt that she much preferred my sister to me. Well, my mom was an amazing caregiver to me in the hospital. She sat with me for hours while I slept, spoon-fed me food when I couldn't do more than open my mouth, and countless other things. She soothed me when I had panic attacks. Most importantly, she told me how much she loved me for the first time. Even though her actions already showed all that love and I knew that she loved me, it was really something to hear it.

2. A cousin of mine (my dad's sister's son) has not spoken to my parents or me and my sister in 7 years; it's a long story. Well, when his mom, my aunt, told him what happened, he called her every day for updates on me. Finally he wrote my dad, and apologized for all the years of silence, and asked that he and my dad could talk in order to put the past behind and be family again. My dad, who never had any issues with him in the first place and had hoped for years that he would come around, immediately embraced this chance to talk to him. This reunion has been wanted for so very, very long by us.

3. There are other relatives that have been somewhat estranged, and they have all reached out to put differences behind and move forward.

9 comments:

Michelle said...

Congratulations, Aunt Emmie!

I think that sometimes tragedy is what helps family pull together - and reminds us what's really important and that we need for the people we love to know it while they're still with us. It's too bad that you had to almost die for all of those good things to happen, but at least there's a little bit of a silver lining in all of this.

Eva said...

It's so amazing that you can put on a positive spin and think about the good outcomes after everything you've been through. I hope all of you are doing well.

Somewhat Ordinary said...

Congrats, Auntie!!
It is neat to hear that positive things came from your near death experience (although I wish that you didn't have to endure such pain during what should have been the happiest time of your life). Reading what you wrote about your mom was very touching.

Jacquie said...

Awww that would have been lovely to see 3 cousins side by side.

So nice to hear you reached a new level with your Mom.

Anonymous said...

Emmie - What a lovely post. I was wondering how things were between you and your mom considering all you've been through. I'm so happy to hear her verbalization of what she obviously believes. And kudos for all the good energy surrounding all of you. While sadly it sometimes takes a critical event to propel one to express his/her true feelings, the important thing is it happened. Life is too short not to live it to the fullest. Having just experienced this life-altering event, I'm sure you can relate. Congratulations to your sister. And what a dear vision seeing your bundles of joy and hers together. Wishing you continued positivity and love as you move ahead. My due date is next Thursday...I may just have to re-enter the Blogging world, this one an homage to our baby boy;-) Take care. ~Lisa

Motel Manager said...

I'm glad that something good has come of this awful experience!

GLouise said...

Wow- I cried at reading the part about your mom.

You are so brave to be able to find the positive in this traumatic time. My prayers for your continued healing,

Sunny said...

It amazes me how good things come from the yuck!

hope548 said...

My gosh Emmie. I'm just in awe of all that you've been through! (I was on vacation, then too busy to check blogs). I am so very happy to know that you and the boys are all ok, and also that your sister and new baby are well! Congratulations and welcome back!
Take care!